At times in a relationship or a conflict, you are puzzled as to what to do. The principles shared here on this blog such trying to understand the other person, can help but sometimes you are simply not sure what the best approach is.

There is an awesome resource available to you. Many times I have used this secret in various relationship situations.

Ask God for wisdom. It sounds simple but it works. God knows that person better than you do and He knows what is best for them and for you. He knows all the person’s life experiences, their thoughts and what is important to them. He knows how to reach them and what will work in any situation.

Often times, it takes a little while to get the answer or answers. The wisdom doesn’t always come immediately. One thing you can do is to put yourselves in situations where you can find the wisdom you need. For example, read a relevant book or seek Biblical wisdom on relationships, talk to a wise friend or maybe do research on the internet. Other times, if you take time to think about it, a “thought solution” will drop into your minds. If you seek and persist in seeking, you will find.

At times, you may want the magic key that turns things around. However, it is not a one time solution. Sometimes you need repeated wisdom over a period of time to work through your relationship issues. The continual seeking will be worth it though because in working through issues, you grow as a person. Once you work through the issues, you can enjoy be the benefit of what that person and the relationship has to offer.

“If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.” James 1:6 (NIV)