When you face a challenging relationship problem or are in a difficult situation, what do you do?
Do you try to work things out by yourself. Do you stay stuck in a rut? Do you withdraw?
Do you run from the problems by seeking various escapes, eating, drinking, work, pleasure, additions?
These responses will keep you stuck in stress and rob you of opportunities to grow and overcome your relationship challenges. Be a responsible person and instead, seek solutions and answers. If you do this, you’ll be rewarded with peace.
3 Tips to Find Solutions For Solving Relationship Problems
1. Admit and face the problem. When you do this, the problem loses its power over you. Once you take responsibility for it, you can work through it and come out stronger on the other side. When you own your own truth, you have taken the first step to freedom.
2. Reach out to friends and family you can trust. Talk to people who love you, have your best interest at heart and are safe people. Choose people who won’t simply agree and commiserate with you but ones who will speak the truth and challenge you to grow.
3. Seek counsel. Seek the counsel of knowledgeable people who have wisdom and understanding and those who seek truth. Seek God for wisdom. Seek the counsel of God’s Word. The Bible is full of wisdom for relationships.
Sometimes we believe that we are supposed to be able to figure out everything on our own and even feel shame to admit we have a need. Truth is you don’t have to do things on your own or be ashamed of your needs. We all need help and we all need each other.
When you seek help, you don’t necessary have to do everything others say. The final decision is your responsibility. Sift through the advice and find out what works for you and decide on the wisest course of action.
The advantage of seeking the counsel of others is differing perspectives. Each person has their own well of wisdom. They may offer you ideas and perspective you haven’t thought of or they may reinforce what you already think and know.
Seeking wise counsel gives you the wisdom and courage to move forward into a positive solution.
“Get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding.” Proverbs 4:7 (NIV)
What has been your experience? Let us know in the comments below. What questions do you have? How can I support you in resolving your relationship issues?