When you face a challenging problem or are in a difficult situation or, what do you do? Do you try to work things out by yourself and stay stuck in a rut? Do you withdraw? Do you run from the problems by seeking various escapes, eating, drinking, work, pleasure, additions?
3 Tips for a better solution
- Admit and face the problem. When you do this, the problem loses its power over you. Once you own responsibility for it, you can work through it and come out stronger on the other side.
- Reach out to friends and family you can trust who love you, have your best interest at heart and are safe people.
- Seek counsel. Seek the counsel of other people who either have wisdom and understanding or are seeking it.
Sometimes we have a mindset that somehow we are supposed to be able to figure out everything on our own and even feel shame that we have a need. Truth is you don't have to do things on your own or be ashamed of your needs. We all need help and we all need each other.
You don't necessary have to do everything others say. The final decision is your responsibility. Sift through the advice and find out what fits for you. The advantage of seeking the counsel of others is differing perspectives. Each person has their own well of wisdom. They may offer you ideas and perspective you haven't thought of or they may reinforce what you already think and know. This gives you the wisdom and courage to move forward into a solution.
"A friend loves at all times, and a brother (sister) is born for adversity." Proverbs 19:17 (NIV)
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