My sister, Sandi (two years younger) and I had the opportunity to get together last week. We love being together. I live in the mid-west and she lives in California so it's a treasured treat to spend time with each other. And you know sisters sometimes argue. We don't quarrel much but there are those times...
We started arguing about an issue. We were both very certain that we were right! Sometimes people start an argument and get competitive about it. This wasn't that kind of an argument. We simply saw things from a different viewpoint.
Finally, I said, "Look we are not going to agree on this. Let's drop it and go on to something else." We stopped the discussion and started talking about something else. We were fine with each other. We are secure enough in our relationship to withstand disagreement.
Sometimes my husband and I are at odds on an issue. I'll realize it's not going anywhere and so I stop responding back to him or simply say, "Well, we just see things differently" and it's over. It takes two to quarrel and if one stops, there is no longer fuel for the argument.
What is a fast, amiable way to end an argument?
Stop the quarrel and simply agree to disagree.
"Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam;
so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out." Proverbs 17:14 (NIV)
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